And So It Begins....
November 19, 2018
"A journey of a thousand miles
begins with a single step."
– Lao Tzu
Lets begin with my introduction. My name is Heather. I am currently thirty-two years old and live in central Florida. I am single by choice. And I am going to be a mother.
Wait! I know some of you are thinking. Single and pregnant? SINNER!!!! Let me clarify for the bible thumpers out there I am not the whore of Babylon. I have dated. I enjoyed the relationships, at the time. I am attracted to men. I haven't personally been in any abusive relationships. Yet, I would honestly rather be single. And have been so for five years. Perhaps I just haven't found the one person that I felt I couldn't live without. Or maybe I am happy single. It's 2018, I am not beholden to the standard methods of reproduction. A little frozen sperm and a clinic will do just fine.
I was talking with my mother this weekend when I asked what she would say if I went and had myself artificially inseminated. Fully expecting my mother to give her typical flippant answer of "It is your choice. Do whatever you want." She of course said that, but there was more. She started listing off reasons why it wasn't such a crazy idea. I have to admit I was caught off guard. I always assumed that she would out right reject the idea, but she didn't.
Maybe it was my mother's surprising response. Or perhaps I had already made my mind up and just wanted to know if I have some support. I am going through with it. I am going to be a Choice Mother. I will take my want for a child and make that a reality.What is a Choice Mother you may ask? Well if you are reading my blog you might already know. But I'm a talker so I will fill you in. A Choice Mother is a woman who has chosen to have children without a partner. Simplified a single mother by design.
Full disclosure, I over analyze everything. I have researched my options for many years before my auspicious conversation. How could I do it? How much would it cost? Am I ready? Do I really want to go it alone? Will I be a good mother? What damage would I be causing my child by not having a father for them? On and on my brain mulled over the thought of taking my reproduction into my own hands. I exhaustively poured over any piece of information I could find on the topic. Then I realized WHY THE HELL NOT?
I work as a parenting specialist. I know those that can't do, teach. But I am really good at this shit you guys. I have been around children my whole life. I currently serve children and family with chronic mental illness. I help educate the families on how to best implement healthy parenting practices in their homes to stabilize their bambinos. I have the knowledge. I have a stable job. I have a loving supportive family. I have a great support system. I know many people who make it work with a lot less.
All this brought me to this weekend. I have decided to start this journey. And I am giving myself a good window to prepare. I want everything in place for when I get to bring my baby home. Got forbid I don't check everything from my lists. I have so much energy I can barely focus on what to do first. So I started this blog.
One reason is I wanted to get my thoughts out and release some of my excitement into the world. I haven't really spoken about this to anyone yet. And two I hope that as I go along my journey that perhaps I might help someone else navigate their way a little easier.
So here I am. The first steps towards motherhood. I know this will be a struggle. But I can't think of anything I want more in this life than to be a mother. If you think I am a complete fool or just crazy that is fine. But this is my life and my journey. I have options. I have chosen. Here goes nothing.
Lets begin with my introduction. My name is Heather. I am currently thirty-two years old and live in central Florida. I am single by choice. And I am going to be a mother.
Wait! I know some of you are thinking. Single and pregnant? SINNER!!!! Let me clarify for the bible thumpers out there I am not the whore of Babylon. I have dated. I enjoyed the relationships, at the time. I am attracted to men. I haven't personally been in any abusive relationships. Yet, I would honestly rather be single. And have been so for five years. Perhaps I just haven't found the one person that I felt I couldn't live without. Or maybe I am happy single. It's 2018, I am not beholden to the standard methods of reproduction. A little frozen sperm and a clinic will do just fine.
I was talking with my mother this weekend when I asked what she would say if I went and had myself artificially inseminated. Fully expecting my mother to give her typical flippant answer of "It is your choice. Do whatever you want." She of course said that, but there was more. She started listing off reasons why it wasn't such a crazy idea. I have to admit I was caught off guard. I always assumed that she would out right reject the idea, but she didn't.
Maybe it was my mother's surprising response. Or perhaps I had already made my mind up and just wanted to know if I have some support. I am going through with it. I am going to be a Choice Mother. I will take my want for a child and make that a reality.What is a Choice Mother you may ask? Well if you are reading my blog you might already know. But I'm a talker so I will fill you in. A Choice Mother is a woman who has chosen to have children without a partner. Simplified a single mother by design.
Full disclosure, I over analyze everything. I have researched my options for many years before my auspicious conversation. How could I do it? How much would it cost? Am I ready? Do I really want to go it alone? Will I be a good mother? What damage would I be causing my child by not having a father for them? On and on my brain mulled over the thought of taking my reproduction into my own hands. I exhaustively poured over any piece of information I could find on the topic. Then I realized WHY THE HELL NOT?
I work as a parenting specialist. I know those that can't do, teach. But I am really good at this shit you guys. I have been around children my whole life. I currently serve children and family with chronic mental illness. I help educate the families on how to best implement healthy parenting practices in their homes to stabilize their bambinos. I have the knowledge. I have a stable job. I have a loving supportive family. I have a great support system. I know many people who make it work with a lot less.
All this brought me to this weekend. I have decided to start this journey. And I am giving myself a good window to prepare. I want everything in place for when I get to bring my baby home. Got forbid I don't check everything from my lists. I have so much energy I can barely focus on what to do first. So I started this blog.
One reason is I wanted to get my thoughts out and release some of my excitement into the world. I haven't really spoken about this to anyone yet. And two I hope that as I go along my journey that perhaps I might help someone else navigate their way a little easier.
So here I am. The first steps towards motherhood. I know this will be a struggle. But I can't think of anything I want more in this life than to be a mother. If you think I am a complete fool or just crazy that is fine. But this is my life and my journey. I have options. I have chosen. Here goes nothing.
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